Do you have a burning desire to achieve a goal or a dream you have? And if yes, what's stopping you from going after it? Most people leave their dreams and goals unfulfilled, because they believe that they are not enough to make them happen. Either they feel that they lack the necessary skills and knowledge, or even attitude, or they feel that they’re going to fail anyway, so they don’t bother starting working on their goal at all. They try to avoid the pain of failure and they stay stuck on those things they know and trust, even though they don’t really make them feel happy and successful. But even the idea that they could fail, and prove their friends and relatives right that they’ve shouldn’t have tried in the first place, is so forbidding that they never really make the decision to change their life and put their plan, for achieving their goal, in action.
But let me ask you this; what is really more painful? Take the risk and go after your dream and goal and maybe fail the first time you try it or stay in your comfort zone for ever and settle with the idea that you’re not enough for achieving such goals as the one you desire to achieve? The first choice gives you the option of getting a feedback of what went wrong. In this way, you can alter your plan, use other ways and methods, test and try and finally succeed. The second option gives you no option! It holds you back from living a life you want and makes you feel like a horse that has tremendous power, but it is loaded with so much weight that it’s not able to take a single step. And this step is all the negative thoughts and limiting beliefs you carry for so long in your mind. “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t make it”, “Who am to start and run a successful business?”, “I don’t have what it takes”, “These dreams are too big for me” and “Why should my ideas and goals make a difference to the world?”, “I always fail, why not this time again?”.
All these negative thoughts drain your mind and disappoint you from doing anything you enjoy in life, because you always feel that you don’t have what it takes and others, that have succeeded, are much better than you. But, this is not true! You have tremendous power within you. You just let your fear and limiting beliefs overshadow it and this is why you feel that you don’t have any power left.
It’s ok to keep your feet on the ground, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start working towards achieving your goals and dreams. To overcome your fear of failure, or the feeling you’re not good enough, use your reasoning and write down your strengths and weaknesses. Use your strengths as tools to help you succeed and work on your weaknesses to fill in the gap of what you need more, in order to achieve your goal. And remember, if you know exactly what you want, why this so important to you and have a plan on how to get it, you’re more than enough to reach your goal successfully!.
Valentina is a Life & Professional Life Coach helping women change their mindset, overcome their obstacles and fears and thrive in their professional and personal life.